The Bride (Part 1)

Oct 17, 2011 2 Comments by

During the celebration of Tabernacles in Bundaberg , Queensland, I taught on the role of the bride in Jewish tradition and how the Lord embraced us as His betrothed.

Rev. 3:20….Behold, I stand at the door and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him and will sup with him, and he with me.
Most of us have our own special interpretation of that very familiar verse. It’s easy to visualize the Lord, standing at the door of your heart and knocking —– but the ancient meaning goes in a different direction.

In Jewish formality the pre-marriage betrothal takes place a year before the wedding and it is affirmed in the presence of two witnesses. I like to feel the witnesses are the Father and the Holy Spirit.

In modern terms the betrothal is equivalent to an engagement. The Encyclopedia of Jewish Life and Thought says: “The term ‘betrothed’ is also involved in the custom described in some circles as ‘tena’im’ (conditions) in which the two families stipulate the financial help each side undertakes to give the couple.

“When the tena’im are written and signed, it is customary for the families to break a pottery dish to symbolically suggest that just as the dish can never be repaired, so may the couple strive to never break their matrimonial bond.”

When the bridegroom made his initial move towards marriage, he arrived at the house of his beloved and his father came with him.

Picture Him, approaching the home of His beloved. “Behold I stand at the door and knock ….”

When the two men arrive, they knock on the door. Now the intended’s father, before he opens the door, checks through a little window to establish the identity of the men outside.

“If any man hears my voice …” Once the men are appropriately identified, the dad turns to his daughter to make certain she is okay with the imminent marriage proposal.

Clearly the approval was settled some time before. Should he open the door?

When that decision is confirmed, the door is opened and the betrothal process officially begins. Now the marriage can only be confirmed if appropriate terms are approved.

Opening the door was just the first step and that’s indicated by the verse in Revelation. “Behold, I stand at the door and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him and will sup with him, and he with me.”

In this one sentence the Lord is offering a deep, personal relationship, which goes much further than a mere acceptance one to the other.

The significance of this process asks us if we will enter into a covenant of betrothal with Him? Will we seek to work with Him to ensure that this bond of agreement will not be broken?

The choice in the agreement, is always with the bride. If she does not approve the opening of the door, the groom and his father would leave. Once that door is opened and she considers the details of the offer, she can withdraw her approval at any stage. In fact, she can withdraw at any stage up to the actual consummation of the relationship.

At the wedding of Chelsea Clinton - see the Ketubah displayed at the right.

Now to a very significant, ancient symbol of this tradition…. The Jewish marriage contract is called ‘ketubah’, which is Hebrew for “document”.

When the marriage details were finalized the bride and groom called in a rabbi or scribe to write the actual agreement in the ketubah.

There are five parts to this document.

1) First came a combined family history of the bride and groom, which included detailed family trees and anecdotes.

2) Second came a personal and family history of the bride, with a detailed family tree and anecdotes.

3) Third came a personal and family history of the groom, also with a family tree and anecdotes.

4) Fourth came the story of how the bride and groom met, with related anecdotes.

5) Fifth came a final section detailing both the bride’s and the groom’s responsibilities before and after the wedding.

Now consider the Torah – the first five books of the Bible.

1) Genesis provides the combined family history of the bride and groom.

2) Exodus gives the personal and family history of the bride.

3) Leviticus provides the history of God’s family, the Levites.

4) Numbers tells of God’s love affair with His people in the wilderness and records His joys and sorrows as He reaches out to His bride.

5) Deuteronomy specifies the responsibilities that both bride and groom must fulfill.

What is this saying? Just that the first five books of the Bible are written as a marriage contract between God and His people. The Torah (the first five books of the Bible) is their ketubah.

How powerfully significant is this? According to a rabbinic regulation, issued in the first century, all of the groom’s property should be regarded as collateral for the payment of the ketubah.

Even more powerful is the simple fact, a man and a woman are forbidden, in Jewish society, to live together in marriage, without a ketubah.

We are not invited into a part-time relationship with the Lord. Without genuine commitment there is no intimate fellowship with Him.

Even further, it is impossible to ignore the special relationship God has always ordained for His chosen people.

The covenant that God made with Israel in Exodus 19 was a marriage contract.

God spoke to Moses, saying:
“‘Now then, if you will indeed obey My voice and keep My covenant, then you shall be My own possession among all the peoples, for all the earth is Mine; and you shall be to Me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.’ These are the words that you shall speak to the sons of Israel.” (Exodus 19: 5,6)

He chose them, gave the stipulations, and Israel accepted!

How exciting! Summary so far

The Ketubah. marriage contract has five parts.
1. Family history
2. Bride’s personal details
3. Groom’s personal details
4. How they met
5. Responsibilities

The Torah is Israel’s Ketubah

1) Genesis – family history
2) Exodus – family history/bride
3) Leviticus – God’s family/Levites
4) Numbers – God’s love affair with His bride. (How they met)
5) Deuteronomy – Responsibilities Bride-Groom

Exodus 19:7-8 “And Moses came and called for the elders of the people, and laid before their faces all these words which the LORD commanded him. And all the people answered together, and said, All that the LORD hath spoken we will do. And Moses returned the words of the people unto the LORD.

God basically said to them, I will give you my promises, and you will give me your heart, soul, mind, your love and you will serve me with everything that is within you. Israel agreed to these terms. The acceptance of the Ketubah, meant that Israel was in agreement and they would enter this contract with Almighty God.

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Ron Ross worked as the first Sports Editor at WINTV. In Wollongong. He ran The Hamburger Hut an outreach and discipleship program for youth. He served with Youth With a Mission in Hawaii, Philippines and Australia. He was senior pastor of the Noosa Baptist Church, Queensland for 9 years. He reported news from Jerusalem for five years and is now the Middle East correspondent for United Christian Broadcasters and travels regularly preaching and teaching.

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